Breaking up is hard. But sometimes it is necessary.
When you find yourself in a relationship where your needs are not being met. Where your happiness is not being considered. Where you feel that you are not important to your partner. These are signs that your relationship has changed course and it may be time to go. But don’t try to be a miracle worker. Some things can’t be fixed. Learn about some of the signs of a broken relationship. Recognize them when they appear. And learn when to let go and move on.
Here are 10 signs that it may be time to leave your boyfriend:
1. He is insensitive and ignores your feelings.
Does he ignore or avoid you when you’re having an emotional meltdown and you know you’re not a drama queen? When you try to talk to him about problems you may be having, does he turn off you, turn on the TV, or go into another room? Do you need to turn to others for comfort when you are sad or depressed?
If he lacks empathy for you and shows no concern for your emotional and mental well-being, chances are he just doesn’t care about you. Now I know that some men try to comfort you in their own way, which is usually not very helpful, but at least they try. If he doesn’t even try, why stay with him? Find someone to be your shoulder to cry on or your cheer squad when you need them.
2. It is starting to wear off.
Where had he gone? You talk to him on the phone and he seems to have time for his family, friends, hobbies and everything under the sun, but not for you. An important part of growing a healthy relationship is spending time together.
If you live close to each other and he can’t take the time to see you, you’re not a priority. If he knows that spending time with you is important to you and he still hasn’t come, why do you keep waiting for him? He’s obviously enjoying his life, it’s time you start enjoying yours.
3. He’s on a mission… A secret mission.
Are you being sneaky? Have you started to lock down your cell phone and computer? Has he started sending calls to voicemail when you’re around or goes to another room to text? Has he stopped telling you about the things he’s been doing? Something is happening. He is up to no good.
Don’t wait for the drama to unfold. If you get warning signs, don’t ignore them. The basis of a good relationship is trust and if you can’t trust him, why stay with him?
4. Suddenly celibate.
For most couples, sex declines as their relationship matures. But it doesn’t stop short. If there’s a reason for your sexual dysfunction, fine. If you didn’t have much of a sex life to begin with, then this isn’t a problem. But if they were a happy, horny couple and now they might as well be in separate beds, then there’s a problem.
If he has no desire to have sex with you, that is a definite sign that your relationship is in trouble.
5. You want to be in control.
Who is in charge of your life? Need to know where you are, who you’re with, and what you’re doing? Do you check your phone, your email, your Facebook account? Does it try to control other aspects of your life? What do you do? What you eat? What did you see?
If he doesn’t let you be who you want to be, then he doesn’t love you for who you are. If he needs to control you, then he doesn’t trust you. You have to get away from him before you lose all sense of self worth. The only person who should be in control of your life is you. Leave this control freak and find someone who trusts you and respects your right to be yourself.
6. He’s pissing you off… on purpose.
Most men do things that their girlfriends find irritating. But most of these things are habits and we all know how hard habits are to break. But your boyfriend shouldn’t go out of his way to annoy you. Does he seem to want to make you angry, provoke an argument?
Do your fights usually end when he leaves or threatens to break up with you? Does he seem more interested in your reaction than the actual conflict? Do you really want to get involved with a self-absorbed drama queen? Don’t stay waiting for her to grow up. Call it quits and find a man who wants to show you love, not drama.
7. You can’t stand it.
Sometimes you just stop feeling the spark. You’ll know when it happens. When you stop wanting to see it. I don’t want to spend time with him. She dreaded having to listen to his voice on the phone. When there is no chemistry, the time you spend with your boyfriend brings you down.
Ending this relationship is hard, especially if he’s a nice guy. But you have to do your best. It’s best for you because you’ll end the relationship before things get really bad. It’s also the best for him because it allows him to find someone he has chemistry with. So don’t force yourself to feel something that isn’t there. You are wasting your time and his.
8. You are not happy.
A relationship isn’t all rainbows, sunshine, and lollipops, but it shouldn’t be torture either. Your relationship should not be a source of sadness. You should not feel trapped. You should not feel empty. If you experience joy in other aspects of your life, but your relationship is bringing you down, it’s time to move on.
You need to be strong. Get support. Find someone you can talk to, a friend, a family member, a counselor. Find someone who can help you discover what you want and what you need. Remember that you are the only person in control of your happiness.
9. He doesn’t commit to you.
Yes there are men who are afraid of commitment. For many, in time for the right woman, they will arrive. But if the guy you love seems more committed to exploring his options, then he’s not serious about you. Do you want an open relationship? Do you think he needs to continue dating other women?
You are looking for something better. You are temporary. Someone to hang out with until he finds his Mrs. Perfect. If you agree with that, fine. But don’t try to tie it. He doesn’t want to settle down with you. Find someone who does and let it go.
10. He is a loser.
Does he expect you to pay for dates? Does he come to watch your TV and eat your food? Does he always seem to need to borrow something: food, money, his car? He is a tramp. Get rid of this cheap and dirty loser. He is using you for what you have.
He doesn’t care about you, only your things and what you can do for him. Cut it out, then cut it out of your life. Losing it will not only improve your life by giving you access to better men, but it will also lower your grocery bills.
Not all relationships work. When a relationship ends, it can feel like the death of a close friend. You will feel the loss. But the pain of breaking up is nothing compared to the pain you will experience if you stay in a bad relationship. Do not stay with the hope that it will improve. Don’t think you can change it. If I wanted to change, I would. If it doesn’t, there’s nothing you can do about it. If he doesn’t like you or if he doesn’t want to be with you, there’s nothing you can do about it. You can’t change someone else. So stop trying.
No one should be miserable, just for being with someone. No matter who you are, there is someone out there who is perfect for you. There is someone out there who will love you as you are and for who you are. And as long as you stay in this relationship, you’ll never find him. So when these signs are constantly thrown in your face. Recognize them for what they are. Signs that you need to make a change, move on. Get rid of Mr. Wrong and find your Mr. Right.
