How to kill your addiction in 21 days!

I personally know what it’s like to be addicted to something bad. When you are addicted to something good, like exercising or eating healthy, then your life improves. But when that addiction is to something bad, like pornography, alcohol, or lying, then your life becomes miserable. Those bad addictions do nothing to improve your life.

However, with any addiction it is possible to break free FOREVER from those things that make your life more difficult. Someone who is addicted to alcohol cannot live. Their lives revolve around the bottle. Same with porn (for both men and women): you will plan your day according to your addictions. The same goes for consuming soda – you’ll find yourself broke because you love that Dr. Pepper more than you should!

Before you break your addiction, you need to understand the following:

  • You have a problem, and it doesn’t matter why you have it (so blame is no excuse!)
  • Giving in to your cravings is YOUR choice, you are not obligated to do so.
  • You have the power to say “Yes” or “No” to your addictions.
  • Your problem is only temporary, if you let it.

It takes about 21 days for anyone to create or quit a habit. In this case, we want to break a habit (or a bad addiction). And I’m sorry to say it, but the best way to get rid of a bad habit is to kick it cold turkey, temporarily, that is.

For 21 days, you will make the decision to simply not give in to your cravings. Whether it’s smoking (cigarettes or weed), sleeping with strangers every night, getting drunk, gambling, eating candy, or whatever is taking over your life, you should simply stop for 21 days.

Now, what about trying to “wean” yourself off your bad habits? Well let me give you an example that MEN would probably understand:

Allen is a married man with children. He has a problem with pornography. And he likes ALL kinds of porn: hardcore porn, softcore porn, 18+ porn, lesbian porn, you name it. He’s mouth watering with all of them.

One day, Allen gets tired of always giving in to his addictions. He is ruining his wishes for his wife. He can’t stop thinking about looking at naked women! Her desires for him are out of control! Therefore, he figures he would tone it down. I mean, he can’t just stop dead. That’s impossible!

So instead of looking at the hard stuff on the internet, he decides to look at the store catalogs that his wife gets on occasion. He will only look at the section with the women in their underwear. It is not a big thing. It’s not porn. Many of these women are probably moms… hot moms… very hot moms.

Hmmm, she wonders if these hot moms have husbands who know what they’re doing. What if their husbands didn’t know?

Hmmm, what if there was a porn site about cheating wives…

And before you know it, she’s back on the computer looking for new cheating wife porn sites.

Switching to the “lighter versions” of the hardcore versions will not work, because you are still feeding your addictions. No, you may not drink five times a day, but you still give in to your addictions. You may just be drinking “diet cokes” instead of the ones with sugar, but eventually, you’ll miss the “real stuff” and come back to it.

If you are addicted to something, that means you have a soft spot for it. The best way to handle any weakness is to get rid of what you are weak at.

So, let’s go back to our friend Allen. He needs to stop the porn period. He is a married man and he does not need to covet other women. So this is what he will do for 21 days:

  • Stop looking at porn, period. Taking a look at something naughty, even if it’s not “porn,” would still feed their addictions.
  • He reverses his gaze when he sees other attractive women.
  • Keep his eyes on another woman’s eyes if he is tempted to look at her breasts.
  • Don’t watch anything on TV that makes women skimp on tight clothing.

And for 21 days, this is what it WILL do:

  • He looks at his wife more often when she is naked.
  • Have sex with your wife more often.
  • He takes his wife by the hand
  • Think bad things about your wife
  • Hitting your wife’s butt or touching her more often
  • Look at his wife’s sweets more often.

The key here is to stop your bad habits COLD while you form a new habit in their place. By doing this, he:

  • He begins to desire his own wife.
  • He has little or no interest in other women.
  • Get a closer relationship with your wife.
  • get rid of your addiction
  • start living life again

Now, I use the example of pornography because it’s such a hot topic! But this principle applies to EVERYTHING. The point is to stop everything you are doing that is leading to your addictions and start doing the things that will STARVE your addictions. When something starts, it dies. If a woman is addicted to romance novels and it prevents her from wanting her own husband, she needs to stop eating her addiction and start doing more things to want her own man.

If someone is addicted to alcohol, that person needs to break that addiction and start replacing alcoholic drinks with drinks that do something good for the body, like, I don’t know, WATER!

If someone is addicted to a particular food, then that person needs to stop eating that addiction and start craving healthier foods.

It’s all about starving your addiction and being aggressive about it. Addictions are not eliminated. Addictions are over! You don’t want to take it easy. You want to hunt him down and kill him!

Listen! If you don’t know anything about weeds, understand that if you don’t uproot them, they will grow back! As long as the roots of any plant are intact, you will see them again. Those roots are still active, waiting for the perfect season to sprout again overnight! You control weeds by driving them to the roots so they don’t grow back there. You control your addiction by taking it to the root and killing it.

And you kill your addiction by stopping it in its tracks. But only temporarily.

Now why am I telling you to stop doing it for 21 days? Well, even though you need to kick your addictions PERIOD, that “forever” thought could be overwhelming and you will go back to your old ways. But, if he could hold it back for a brief moment, it gives him hope that maybe he can get back into his addictions again. However, by the time the 21 days are up, she won’t want to go back to her old ways. And anyone could stop doing anything for a brief moment.

When I tell you to stop for just 21 days, that gives you a goal to work toward and a plan to work with. During those 21 days, you will do everything you can to stay away from your addictions so that when the 21 days are over, you will feel so free from your addictions that you will not want to go back. Having a life free of addictions is better than a life where you are chained. You don’t want to live life in chains now, do you?

But you might be thinking, “Easier said than done, man! You don’t know what I’m going through!”

Yes! All addictions work the same way: you have a strong desire and you give up. Period. And what makes it an addiction is that you ALWAYS give in to these cravings, even to the point where you make adjustments to your schedule just to give in to these cravings. But what I’m telling you is if you take the “easier said than done” attitude, guess what? You will NEVER lose your addiction. But if your attitude is that your addiction needs to “Get Out”, then you WILL CONQUER your addiction. I don’t care what you are addicted to, all addictions work the same way. And you could kill those addictions the same way: HUNGER.

No more nicotine patches? Don’t smoke “lighter cigarettes” or drink less of the “strong stuff.” HUNGER her addiction. Attack! Be aggressive! Act like you are fighting for your life. Because by simply weaning yourself off, you provide temporary relief, but the roots are still there. You pluck a weed from the stem without removing the roots, then you simply don’t see the weed anymore. But while the roots are still in the ground, he’ll be back, and he might as well bring some friends!

Go after those addictions with a vengeance! You don’t treat addictions like they’re nothing. They are ruining their lives! Be aggressive with your addictions and you will get some aggressive results!

Aiyo A. Jones, MS

NCSF Certified Fitness Trainer

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