What’s the attraction of Bad Boys?
Many women have said that they are attracted to bad boys. If you wonder why, read on.
The typical bad boy is
* Puts himself first
* Does not pay attention to the needs of a woman.
* Do what you want when you want to, regardless of what others think.
* Acts as a loose cannon
* Show off your masculine sexuality
* Not even remotely a “nice” guy
* Use women for sex
* Feel that you are at the top of the mating chain. An alpha male, so to speak, if you’ve seen the Discovery channel
Ask any girl what she likes about typical bad boys. Many women will respond that they never know what to expect when a “bad boy” is around. They find them challenging and see the bad guys as self-confident. Bad guys know what they want and they go after it. They are never boring. They are strong, aggressive, independent and confident. Women feel safe around him. Some women like the idea that maybe “she” can fix it.
When I asked some women what they like about Bad Boys, they answered some things like:
Love and sex are strongest when they have intense emotions. The good boy is like taking Amtrak, while the bad boy is like a roller coaster. Good guys can be manipulative. They sure are always nice to you, but it’s just so others are nice to them, and that’s not real or natural for lovers. There is no challenge in good guys. Women like challenges and want to be able to reform a bad boy. It’s more flattering for a bad boy to like you. It is more special for a man to treat most of the people he meets as idiots, but he treats you well.
Another said this about bad boys:
The last guy I was with was kind, gentle and respectful of my needs, he gave me everything I wanted and he never disagreed with me. I HATED IT!
The guy I’m with now is all of these things … but they’ll put me in my shoes when necessary. I find that very often, I need to be put in my place. You are not afraid to tell me that I am wrong. That I’m being a brat or I’m just being ridiculous. And even if I complain and try to get away with it, he won’t give up if he really thinks he’s right.
I need a devastating fight from time to time. well, maybe not literally, nobody wants to get hit or anything like that, but there are times when I have to argue.
You can’t argue with someone who always says “you’re right, princess. Whatever you say, angel.”
It’s nice to be pampered, for sure; but how can you respect someone who kisses your ass? Disgusting !!! Give me a boy to face me and I will be his forever.
Someone else’s comment was
I’m attracted to bad guys for the most masculine reason (I like to think that my man can protect me if need be), but also because the super nice guys I’ve met get caught up in the status quo and end up getting very lazy. the relationship and their own lives. I would love to find a super nice guy who can embrace the excitement of everyday life and relationship, but I haven’t found him yet.
Someone who can be labeled a bad boy is male. He’s very confident. Women find this extremely confident trait very attractive. It draws them to my confidence. It has nothing to do with appearance. It has to do with your attitude and your beliefs. He attracts women on an emotional level and when emotions and logic come together most of the time, if the emotion is powerful enough, the emotions win.
Don’t do these things below to be a bad boy:
Be afraid to let her know that you find her attractive.
Neglect having a life outside of the relationship.
Be too easy to get, keep her intrigued.
Sacrifice your hobbies, life, friends, work, etc. for the relationship.
Be gentle with the expectation that you will get something in return – that is manipulative.
We go too strong or try to impress too much.
Be Submissive: Women want a guy who is tougher and stronger than they are (but that doesn’t mean they want someone to dominate them).
Establish your paths.
Be an easy target.
The things you have to do to be a bad boy:
Relax and take up space
Make eye contact with everyone
Project your emotions
Have a playful, playful, playboy-like attitude.
Have a sense of adventure.
Be ambitious and lead
Have a life and hobbies outside of your relationship.
Be a manly protective type (not macho or misogynistic).
Be exciting and unpredictable.
Be a challenge.
Give your own opinions.
Realize that your feelings come from within, not from without
Generate feelings within yourself first for others to follow.
One of the things we teach at Attract and Date is taking the traits of a bad boy, an alpha male, and taking the good parts without the bad. Most women with high self-esteem do not want anyone to abuse them. They want someone who cares about them too. The combination of a bad, idiotic boy with a sensitive and caring boy is the atomic bomb of seduction. It is the best of both worlds. The man who believes in himself and goes after what he wants, but still allows himself to take care of others, scores high on a scale for many women.