Have you ever wondered, “where is there to meet nice women?”
I’m here to tell you that nice women are ALL OVER THE PLACE.
The most important thing you should do is improve YOUR RADAR.
Too many times as guys we overvalue her “niceness” based on our attraction to her.
We say all the time on the dating radio show I co-host that guys “rush into rejection,” but that could easily turn into saying they “rush into a bad situation.”
If what I’m about to say doesn’t apply to you, then congratulations, you’re in the top 10 percent of men in the world.
Unfortunately, 90 percent of men will overlook a lot of flaws a woman has if they are highly attracted to her and she treats them well, but not very well.
You have to learn what to look for and you have to learn to go slow.
Some advices?
You want a flexible giver
Is it discreet? Does she roll with the punches? Does she do nice things for you without being asked? Is it easy to be around her?
You probably have a flexible donor on your hands! If you are going to be with a woman for the long term, having someone who is flexible in her personality and approach to life combined with a generous spirit is a WINNER.
DO NOT move too fast
Any woman can be a flexible short-term giver. How many times has an ex girlfriend been great at first and then gone crazy over time? Make sure you do your due diligence on her and watch her for the long haul.
We teach guys not to decide if she should be your girlfriend for at least 2 months. Don’t even consider marriage until you hit the 2 year mark.
How do you treat people you do NOT need? How does she treat the animals?
During this period of time (2 months to make her your girlfriend and 2 years to make her your wife), watch how she interacts with people who won’t make a difference in her life one way or the other. It’s EASY to treat your main client or boss with respect and kindness, but how about the person who serves you lunch at the restaurant or the waitress who cleans her hotel room? A person’s character is revealed in how he treats people he doesn’t need.
Coinciding with that is how she interacts with animals. I am NOT saying that she has to love dogs if she really doesn’t like them, but she should at least see that she is kind to the animal she interacts with, even if she doesn’t particularly care about them.
There is no substitute for kindness/sweetness.
There are a lot of GREAT women out there, but you have to know what to look for. It’s not about a magical place where you can meet nice women, it’s about a mindset that lets you know one when you have one.
Remember guys, you can meet a good woman, but you have to give her time and make sure she’s nice in the LONG TERM.