Have you ever heard of the term “nice guys finish last”?
I know that I know. . . I think I have an idea what’s going through your mind right now, you’re probably thinking “No, that’s not entirely true, I don’t agree with that. Women LOVE nice guys. Women love good guys.” men who open the doors for them”. her, she pulls out seats for them and treats them like a queen. Idiots may win her heart at first, but in the end the nice guys always get the girl…”
Good for the record. . . YOU’RE WRONG.
I don’t know what rock you’ve been living under for the last five years, but this is the 21st century, my friend! I do agree with you on one point though, women LOVE nice guys. They love them as friends, or as best friends, or as older brothers, or as cousins, etc. . But unfortunately, women VERY RARELY want a nice guy to be their boyfriend.
Now, before you get into any backlash, let’s talk about the term “NICE”. What would he rate as a nice guy?
Here are some examples:
1 A good guy is a guy who appears to be so weak that it looks like even Hanna Montana could beat him up.
2. A good guy is a needy, clingy, disgustingly insecure guy. He is so concerned with gaining a woman’s attention that he would do ABSOLUTELY anything for her.
3. A good guy is a guy who is too available ALL the time.
4. A good guy is a guy who apologizes all the time even though he didn’t even do anything wrong.
5. A good guy is a guy who hangs on to every word you say and then agrees with every point you make.
6. A good guy is a guy who is just TOO MUCH. He’s the kind of guy who would bring flowers, chocolates, and a big teddy bear on a lunch date.
Now you know how women respond to nice guys who are just too much? This is what they tell their friends about them:
“He’s so nice… but… I’m BORED.”
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He’s so nice… but… I don’t think he deserves it.
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“He’s so nice…but…there just aren’t any sparks between us.”
Hard to accept right? I know, I know it hurts. . . Why don’t you come here and cry on my shoulders? . .
I’m assuming you probably got your “super nice guys get the girl last” mentality from your Vietnam War veteran father and grandfather. Hate to burst your bubble here mate, sadly that’s not how it works in this day and age.
Let’s take a look at four of the most important notions to keep in mind when it comes to attracting women:
1. The heart is IRRATIONAL.
We can’t CHOOSE who we FALL IN LOVE with. I know it sucks but that’s how life works so you just have to DEAL with it. Attraction can happen in an instant without warning, you can’t really direct your heart which way to go and you also can’t CONVINCE her heart to choose you so don’t even bother trying.
2. Beautiful women have A LOT of options.
Beautiful women have hundreds of options, that’s common sense, isn’t it? They flirt with her in clubs, libraries, shopping malls, etc. She also has a number of close friends who are just “pretending” to be close friends, but in reality, they can’t wait to “get on with it” with her. They pretend to be BEST FRIENDS, but what they really want is to be FRIENDS. That is why for any beautiful woman, every look, every good deed, every sweet word is in one way or another considered INTEREST. Maybe not all the time, but most of the time that comes to mind because almost every guy she’s been in contact with has shown an interest at some point.
3. The heart is ILLOGICAL. It doesn’t follow any rules.
When you think about the concept of attraction, it makes absolute sense that women would be attracted to kind, polite, well educated and honest gentlemen, right? But then why do so many women fall for jerks and bad boys? where is the logic in that?
There is no LOGICAL period.
4. Women crave SECURITY and STATUS.
I know this may seem unfair, unfortunately women are almost NOT attracted to men of “lower status” than they are or who feel they can’t give them any security. That’s why there are particular stereotypes, like women don’t like men with no job and no future, and women don’t like men who look and sound like Steve Urkell. They want a MAN, not a LADY-BOY.
Now if I had to describe the biggest mistake men make with women, the one that causes the most heartbreak, then I would have to say what it would be. . .
BE A NICE GUY AND HOPE SHE FALLS IN LOVE WITH YOUR “KINDNESS”.
Have you ever chased a woman with flowers, chocolates and expensive gifts, only to have her say “she doesn’t know what she wants right now” and needs “time to think”. . . What eventually led her to see you as “just a friend”?
Have you ever met a woman and given her a nice compliment, only to have her look away and show signs of boredom?
That’s what happens when you’re too nice. Bottom line? NICE BOYS don’t arouse ATTRACTION.
Too much of a good boy is BLAND. They are too needy and clingy that he is nauseating.
Now the first reaction that most guys usually have when they hear this is shock and awe because being nice is what their moms taught them since they were little boys. So when they hear this disturbing news, they say things like “But I don’t want to be a jerk” or “I like being a NICE guy” or “I’m just trying to be MYSELF, that’s all…”.
Don’t worry, I feel you Dawg.
Well here’s the thing, you don’t need to be a “jerk” or “mean” to women, you just need to learn how the concept of attraction works and STOP being too nice.
Do you know what really attracts women?
GENTLEMEN with a touch of BAD BOY swagger.
Yes, that’s right, you heard me, if there’s one thing that flips an attractive woman’s attraction switches, it’s the guy’s ability to be a gentleman but still retain a touch of swagger and swagger. Someone who isn’t really animated but knows how to get into a woman’s heart.
I still highly recommend opening the doors, lending a jacket when the woman is feeling cold, walking on the outside of the sidewalk, and pulling out chairs. You know, the typical knight in shining armor. Men hardly do that anymore nowadays so it will make you stand out. Being a gentleman is a great quality to possess, however you should let him know that you can be a “BAD BOY” sometimes too. For example:
You can pull up a chair for him and then say something like, “This whole gentleman thing is a very rare occasion, okay? So you’d better make the most of it while I’m still in a ‘nice guy’ zone.”
Or you could also pretend to dust her seat before she sits down and then say something like “there you go, your highness” and then give her a smirk afterward.
Or you can also spit implicit compliments like “now don’t act so high and mighty to me just because you’re cute, okay?”
Get it??
Most men don’t understand how a woman’s mind works, which is why they are shocked to the core every time jerks steal their women right from under their noses all the time.
Let me share with you some basic facts about men and women:
Most women by nature play the “shy” angle. They play tough and want men to chase them. Men, on the other hand, are strong, dominant, and aggressive by nature. Most men are generally considered rough and tough, they are supposed to be SOLDIERS by nature.
But then here’s the punch line:
Most men do not ACT like men when they are in the company of a woman they are interested in. Instead, they act too nice and too pathetic, like a LADY-BOY.
Guess what?
It’s not “hot,” it’s not endearing, and it’s NOT desirable AT ALL. It really FRUSTS women!